In case you heard otherwise, breastfeeding is really hard.
In fact, for the first 2-6 weeks, most women I have worked with actually think breastfeeding sucks really bad. It isn’t until about 6-10 weeks into her breastfeeding journey that a woman will tell you that she loves breastfeeding. And, man, does she love breastfeeding.
So, you and your partner have chosen to breastfeed? Awesome. What a healthy choice you have made. I am here to tell you it isn’t easy. You can’t just show up with your boob and put it in front of your baby and expect nature to take its course.
So, like anything difficult, healthy and worthwhile in life, if you want to breastfeed, you must make a plan and get ready to enter a really challenging and really rewarding life experience.
You are going to plan to breastfeed. You are not gonna “just try” to breastfeed.
You and your partner need to be educated, confident and in control.
That is why I created the Pregnant Mama’s Guide to Breastfeeding Success. This is a program unlike any other.
The Pregnant Mama’s Guide to Breastfeeding Success Handbook
- 90 pages of techniques, inspiration, guidance and strategy.
check out the table of contents here!
Four video modules
Over 4 hours of breastfeeding education in bite sized pieces including custom made Balanced Breastfeeding educational videos on latching. Watch when you want, where you want and as many times as you need to. (Including after the babies arrives!)
Module 1: Learn the fundamentals
Discover the three rules that will protect your breastfeeding relationship no matter what happens.
Module 2: Is it Effective?
How do you know if baby is getting enough to eat? What should you do if he isn’t?
Module 3: Latching
Everything you need to know about getting a comfortable latch. This is a great module to watch again once baby has arrived!
Module 4: Maintain Balance & Get Support
Breastfeeding is a marathon, not a sprint! Find out how each and every member of the family plays a role in breastfeeding success.
The Balanced Breastfeeding A-Z Library
- If you have a question, the answer is in the A-Z library.
Why PMG is different
I have been teaching women how to breastfeed for over a decade. For just as long, I have been teaching a two hour “Breastfeeding Basics” class to pregnant parents. It is a really great class, but it isn’t enough. There are a few fundamental problems with the traditional breastfeeding classes taught to pregnant couples.
They are heavily focused on why you should breastfeeding. Obviously you have some kind of interest in the subject or you wouldn’t have shown up, right? Unless you have been living under a rock, you know breast-feeding is good, so let’s skip the public service announcement and get down to the nitty gritty.
In PMG, we will focus on why YOU and YOUR PARTNER think breastfeeding is good. We will find out what your “MOFAS” or motivating factors are for making this choice. Your MOFAS + realistic goals (more on that next) are what will keep you breastfeeding even when stuff get hard (and it will get hard…more on that later).
2. They often define breastfeeding success in terms of exclusivity. Exclusivity means no formula. Ever. At all. Breastfeed perfectly or you fail.
1. Let’s be really clear here. Your job as new parents is to feed your baby and keep it alive. Period. If you can do this with just breastmilk, wonderful. If you need to use formula to help out, good job for feeding your baby (but let’s protect your milk supply too). So in PMG, we set REALISTIC goals. We also explore the fact that you define your own breastfeeding success, nobody else can do that for you. Success looks different for everyone. If you say “I want to successfully breastfeed my baby,” my next question for you is “what is breastfeeding success?”
They are heavily focused on how breastfeeding works when it is at its best. It is true, women have been breastfeeding for thousands of years. Jesus was breast fed for heaven’s sake, so shouldn’t you be able to breastfeed? No, not necessarily. For thousands of years babies have been dying, many of them from failure to thrive aka not enough food. So, yes breastfeeding is the natural thing for our body to do, as is birthing vaginally, but we certainly go into childbirth with an attitude of “women have been doing this for thousands of years so we won’t even mention all these fabulous medical interventions that we have at our disposal in case we need them to make sure neither you nor the baby die in childbirth as women and babies have been doing for thousands of years.”
In PMG, I will tell you how babies are built and how your body works, but I am also going to explain how the process can break down and all the wonderful interventions we have to help out until we fix it up again. Formula, breast pumps, pacifiers and nipple shields are tools that you need to understand, not barriers we need to avoid and not speak of like “he who shall not be named.
4. They teach you about a country you have never been to which you are then expected to navigate without a map to reference. Education in childbirth is so weird. There is no practical application of this new knowledge, therefore much of what you are learning you will inevitably forget. That, on top of your placenta brain makes for a fairly big waste of your time and money. Think about it. In these classes you learn about how to position your baby at your breast to help her properly latch onto the nipple. But you have never held your baby, you have never needed to position any baby to your breast and you have never and to try to get something to suck on your nipple (well, you know what I mean). So, holding a doll to your shirt covered boob is not actually a meaningful experience that you will be able to replicate later when you have your baby.
— You do need to know this information, however, and I want you to see it and learn about it during your pregnancy, so it is all included in PMG. BUT, a big difference is you have access to the course materials after the baby is born in small, bite sized sections so that you can watch it again with your own baby and your own boob in the same room! NOW, this will all start to click in a real and meaningful way.
4. These classes teach you what to avoid, but they don’t explain WHY you need to avoid them. In fact, many of these classes teach you that formula, bottles, pacifiers and breast pumps are detrimental to breastfeeding. Adamant breastfeeding advocates (ahem lactation nazis) are so dead set against these “roadblocks to successful breastfeeding” that many women leave the class paranoid to let their baby have bottles, pacifiers or formula ever. There is a MAJOR flaw to this logic: sometimes it is medically necessary and appropriate to use these things AND it doesn’t ruin breastfeeding IF you know how to properly use them. But, you won’t know how to properly use them after this class, you will just know you SHOULDN’T use them. So, where does that leave you? Well, if you are faced with a situation in which you need to use one of these items, you may feel as if you have failed at breastfeeding, like you are harming you baby, like breastfeeding is ruined or that you are somehow “doing it wrong.” Poppycock.
— In PMG, you will be introduced to all of these TOOL (not barriers) of breastfeeding. You will understand when they are appropriate, how to use them and how to protect if and when you need or choose to implement them. That is called real life. Sometimes, we need a little help to get to.
5. Some, but not all, let you know where you can go for help if things are going well. Most of them will only tell you about the services their own facility offers…which makes sense of course. — In PMG, we will make sure that you research, interview and set up your postpartum support before the baby arrives. You need to know exactly which IBCLC you will be seeing postpartum, you need to like her and trust her. You need to know what she charges and how quickly she can see you. You also need to know about support groups in your area and you need to make sure they support your breastfeeding philosophies. Trust me when I say that you do not want to be scrambling desperately for this kind of help after the baby arrives when you are boobs deep is breastfeeding issues.
6. Too many of these classes try to shove too much information into a 60 slide powerpoint. Going back to work, what to do if you develop plugged ducts and mastitis, how to start solids…none of these topics are appropriate in a prenatal breastfeeding class. Yes, I know you want to know about them, but if you think learning about breastfeeding in pregnancy is hard to process in a meaningful way, learning how to work and pump is impossible to understand.
— PMG gives you access to information about potential problem issues you may encounter in the early months of breastfeeding. It does not however teach you how to return to work and pump. Why? Because that is whole other 4 week course called “The Pumpin’ Mama’s Blueprint.” You need to give yourself 4-6 to prepare for your return to work after you have gotten the hang of breastfeeding. Then, much like learning how to breastfeed, you can transition into learning another new lesson in being a badass working pumper.