In our physical bodies, we strive for balance by making micro adjustments to our muscles until we are still. We can hold a balanced pose maybe for just a moment. We wobble, correct, wobble, fall. We wobble, correct, then we find balance, but just for a moment.
But holding a balance pose was never meant to last for more than a moment.
If you understand the yoga balance pose metaphor, you can understand my philosophy on balance. We are always striving to find a moment’s balance. That moment in time when everything is well. Everything is right. We are Millennial Mothers and our life is a tricky yoga balance pose. We seek to balance the numerous complicated, deeply challenging yet satisfying elements of our lives. There are a lot of ways we can name these elements:
Lately, I view the elements of my life this way:
Some assert that “balance doesn’t exist!” and that we, the Millennial Moms, cannot “have it all.” We disagree. We Millennial Moms can have it all and balance does, in fact, exist.
Balance–the act of holding everything perfectly still and right–happens, but it is only meant to last for a moment.
To us, balance is an active verb, not a noun. During the process of balancing, we make micro-adjustments and rotate what is of the highest priority at any given time.
The work project gets pushed out a week because the kid got the flu. Your healthy eating habits fall by the wayside as you scramble to organize your parents’ 50th wedding anniversary.
When one thing becomes priority, something else must shift to counterbalance that adjustment.
We can have everything.
But, we cannot have everything all the time. Not for more than a moment.
What we must stop trying to achieve is a permanent state of balance. Instead, we should engage in the active process of balancing, then notice and get excited every time we touch that euphoric place where everything is just right. Balance.
In an effort to “have it all,” we Millennial Moms add breastfeeding into the numerous complicated, deeply challenging yet satisfying elements of our lives.
Balanced Breastfeeding guides you in slowly and intentionally incorporating breastfeeding into the already numerous elements of your life. Breastfeeding with balance means shifting some elements down to counterbalance the priority breastfeeding must take in your life.
Balanced Breastfeeding does not feed the myth that the only way to breastfeed is one, perfectly balanced way, never wobbling or falling.
Breastfeeding is just like any other element of our deeply challenging and satisfying lives: We can hold a balanced pose maybe for just a moment. We wobble, correct, wobble, fall. We wobble, correct, then we find balance, but just for a moment. In that moment, we notice our balance and suck a deep breath of contentment in. With the out breath, we release the moment and the balance, certain that they will return again.
Oh yeah, and don’t forget, what you do for one side you must always do for the other. Don’t forget to balance the dark with the light or the hard work with lots of rejuvenating rest.